Effective DBing/ Feedback and Coaching

[Coach]

Since they are our employees, we are in a "parental" relationship with them, in the sense that there is not an equal distribution of authority.

No. The women who works with me is a business partner, I have a different role than her. I have more repsonsiblity, make more and have different measures of accountablity. I am not her parent, she shares in profit, she has autonomy to do her job the best she sees fit and she can bring ideas to me that can help our business. I also can fire her. She could have me fired if I act out of line.


Give us an example of how you would deal with this:

A group of gypsies moved in my yard and set up camp, they said that this land is where their ancestors are from and their souls are mated to this place. They are using my electricity, phones, water, car and eating my food. They also treat me poorly no matter how much I do for them (I am trying to be as loving as I can.) I clean up after them (since that is one of their complaints - one of my 180s :)) and do their laundry. I even give them foot rubs!

Recently my wife and kids are joining them to go away to the city on the weekends. I stay home and cook, clean and tidy their camp. When they return I talk to them about their trip but my wife just brushes me off and goes and talks to the leader.

We stopped ML after a couple weeks of this, I think my wife is tired and stressed. One of her LLs is gifts so I keep buying her more to bring more love to the table. She seems so different now. My kids don't like going with the gypsies but my wife likes it so what can I do?

My friends can't believe how patient and understanding I have become, I am working on what was my part of the problem.

My goals - keep my marriage, family and have a sex life again. I don't want to push my wife away. What do I do?

ps I once said I was going to call the cops on them but they said I was being controlling, threatening, and they are really our friends. They then told me they would take my wife and kids and I would only see them half of the time if I didn't get in line. In the mean time I am working on me. Help!

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I am a almost WAW, my H is abusive. I am working on my part of the relationship. Am I just supposed to take it until I get me figured out? I love on him the best I can. I do what he asks and they he tells me it's not good enough, I ask for help understanding and he just stomps off. I think I need to learn to communicate better. I think he is having a A but it's not his fault.

I am taking care of myself, and go to IC. I have friends and hobbies, which he is very jealous of so I am thinking of changing that. Would that bring more love to the M? When I change my behavior in a healthy way he gets mad and punishes me. I guess I need to change more. Tired of walking on eggshells.

My goals - get him to listen, help me around the house, and some affection.

ps It's hard to get him to listen because he texts constantly.

I will give you the script back on what the WAS says in reply. I am starting to feel unconscious BTW.