Regarding boundaries....our goal is MORE LOVE in the relationship right?
If we're coming off as authoritative, parental, etc.....well, we might win the battle but lose the war. What good is it if our partner meets our boundary but doesn't love us? OR loves us much less?
If they don't love us the boundaries are meaningless. They won't respect them because they don't respect us.
But respect can be earned by setting boundaries. It's a delicate process.
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
How can we get our needs met (our boundaries)....while still growing love?
Very carefully. "I don't like when you treat me this way. How can I help you to behave differently?"
