I'm feeling like telling XH that I won't be a party to this sleaziness...........yet at the same time I know that DBing says that when you can become H/XH's OW, that can be a good thing.
DO the part in BOLD. He is cake eating. You do not want to become the new OW. You want him to look within and finish his crisis.
Have a boundary and stand up for it.
As long as you let him get away with cake eating he will not finish this.
If he wants to have a R with you then OW has to go! He must go through OW withdrawal, depression, withdrawal stage and acceptance. Until he gets to the last three stages you can not have a R with him.
