The problem is that sometimes (especially in relationships) a criticism of the person gets mixed in with addressing the behavior.
You are the only one is this convo who thinks this. We talk consistently about boundaries being about behavior - not personal or attacking. The more destructive and harmful the behavior the more direct the boundary (you continue that behavior here is the consequence). So therefore in your logic it's not criticism. I don't see any of us advocating your definition of criticism - blaming or shaming.
I make my living with my choice of words (i'm better verbal than written) so am careful that I am clear and descriptive. Your definitions of words that have more clear and recognizable meanings are confusing to me (conscious,unconscious, validating, criticism, boundaries etc). It makes your message hard to understand and absorb.
Coach---Do you think a lot of your communication is in your non-verbal delivery?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
