I had a friend move in 3 weeks ago, she was very down on her luck, and had no where else to go. Well last Monday she called me at work to tell me she had been sleeping with my husband for the last week, and she couldn't stand it anymore, so she was moving out. I was of course in shock, so I left work, went to my husbands, and asked him to come home.
When we got home, I confronted him and he admitted to it. I was shocked and angry, I attacked him, kicked him (probably shouldn't have done that) I then later punched him in the face, all out of pure anger.
We have had sex issues; I was never in the mood or initiated anything. I went to the bookstore to find a book to help me deal with his infidelity, and stumbled upon the book ‘The Sex-Starved Marriage’ I leafed through it and thought it might do the trick, so I bought it. I have never had a self-help book pinpoint a problem so close to the head! My husband and I started reading it together. I wish we would have had it or known it existed a month ago, even years ago!.
The book speaks of the problem leading to infidelity, and to fix the problem before it happens, but in our case, the infidelity comes before the book. How do I use the book if I don’t even want to sleep with him at the moment? Our big problem is this, I cant get affectionate with him right now because of the infidelity, and he cant get over the fact that I haven’t wanted to be affectionate for the past couple years. So if we are to work things out, one or both of us has to get over it! That is hard to do.
