Now that XH has confirmed that he is still "dating" OW#2 even though he doesn't see any potential for a long-term R and not telling her about our table tennis games, this situation just feels SO sleazy to me and I feel that I deserve better. I feel that I am seeing the real man in a way that my love for him didn't allow me to before. I continue to lose respect for him (I haven't told him this) when I had him on a pedestal for such a long time.
I'm feeling like telling XH that I won't be a party to this sleaziness...........yet at the same time I know that DBing says that when you can become H/XH's OW, that can be a good thing.
Just frustrated and hoping others may have different perspectives on this situation. Thoughts are welcome.
So sorry that this is your situation GAG. I know the pain and the dilemma of this scenario. Like you, I'm interested in people's perspectives.
It seems everyday I wrestle with this dilemma....do I pretend the relationship doesn't exist and hope it'll work out in the end or do I draw the line in the sand and hope for the best down the track. Then I get upset with myself because I feel I'm not any different to ow. H answers this dilemma by saying that we're friends and there's nothing wrong with being friends. But does he tell ow when we're together and if he doesn't why not?
