I got many overt messages from guys on match, and learned right away not to give my phone number to anyone until we had actually had a first meeting. Otherwise you can be subject to inappropriate texts, and yes I had offers to see pics of guys' junk! FYI men, "Woke up hard, want to see?" is NOT a good way to text a girl in the morning!!! Esp if you have never even met!!!
I closed out my online dating account. I only went on 3 dates generated from that site and have been out with 3 other guys who I already knew or had known and reconnected with post D. So I figure given those odds, I am just as likely to find someone to date out of my own life experiences...
Not sure on the timeline. ExH and I were together 18 years so that would mean 18 months post D on the stats there, and I am only 8 months post D now...I don't want a relationship. I just would like to have someone I can go to the movies or a ball game with, and kiss at the end of the night. You wouldn't think that would be so tough to find!
Chatting briefly online today with the ex-boyfriend. He has a bad habit of sending me links to music videos without thinking of the significance of the lyrics. I used to think it was his subconscious, now I think he's just clueless. We have an agreement I won't read anything into any lyrics he sends me.
Today we were talking briefly about how I was trying to get over him and start dating - and he sends this Seal video where he's fondling his wife Heidi Klum and singing lyrics like "you belong to me and I belong to you". I called him on it and told him that's a video you should only send to a woman you loved. (btw, his girlfriend arrives tomorrow for a visit). If that wasn't his subconscious I don't know what is.
Then my East Coast admirer called and chatted with me for an hour or so. He's quite enamored of me and I like him, I think (we've never met) but so far he doesn't seem to have any concrete plan as to how we might meet, other than thinking maybe I'll have to go to some conference someday in his neck of the woods.
Then tonight I accepted an invitation to go for a drink with a 34 year old guy I met online. What the heck, huh? And he turns out to be tall, cute, funny, smart, and a very good kisser who thinks I'm a "hottie". I'm torn between being pleased (he was a very good kisser!) and horrified (I could be his mother!).
I never was one of those girls who juggled multiple men, even when I was a cute young 20-something.
Well, congratulations! And don't worry about the age thing. He's 34. He's an adult. Go for it.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
Arrg it's 11 pm Friday night and I gave just got home from first date with new guy on line. He is. Nice looking , bit younger than me, wealthy - I know his business and he still shares a house with his x wife . No kids and so much financially to sort they still share a house. Different wings !
We shared cost of dinner and drinks. He did not argue that I paid for half yet I know his approx worth ! No kiss at end. I did not encourage contact. He wants to go out again .
My concerns - his wife being in same house , his no hurry for financial sorting with wife , the fact he was hapy for me to split bill !
Polly - You may know that this guy MAKES a lot of money, but maybe he doesn't HAVE a lot of money? There is a difference. Lots of doctors are up to their eyeballs in debt because they're spending more than they're making. If this guy is so wealthy, how come he can't afford to move into another house?
I'm guessing they have to sell the house but maybe owe more than it's worth? That's been a reason for some couples to have to stay put, at least here in the States.
Funny, that part doesn't worry me quite as much as him not paying for dinner! Not that I have any problem with going dutch, especially if a guy doesn't have a lot of money, but sounds like this guy could at least afford dinner! The young 34 year old guy I went out with last night wouldn't hear of me paying for my own beer. (Granted, I was a cheap date - one beer and some wings!)
And no kiss? If the guy didn't interest you enough for a kiss, maybe he's just not your type? I mean, the 34 year old and I kissed for about 5 minutes in the parking lot (it was about all I could do not to jump him right then but I am trying to learn this new concept of letting the guy do the pursuing - plus I'm trying not to be a slut!)
Ellie (Oh - and when I got home 34 year old had sent me a short sweet email, PLUS he emailed me a response to my response first thing this morning. Very nice.)
Or it could be that he is wary about possible "golddigger" types. So a bit of a test, will she balk at having to go dutch sort of thing. I have a friend that when we get together, we take turns paying. I don't think it has ever bothered him.
Maybe with all of his money, she is fighting for every little bit. Who knows? Maybe you should decide if you liked him enough to see him again.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I just spoke to a guy(late 30's) that told me all about his match experience. In a 4 month time frame he sent out over 800 emails to 800 different women and went on 54 dates. He married the last one he went on a date with 5 years ago and is now divorcing her. I think I will skip the marriage part!
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
