you definitely helped me see things in a different light and thoroughly explained.
i did leave out details because i simply did not want to rehash everything from start to finish. i don't think it's healthy for me and my ic agrees. the marriage is over and we're trying to move forward. to go back and relive the situation is not helpful at this point.
i believe both sides made errors. i know i have said things that i should not have said. but i cannot take the back at this point.
you can 2x4 me on the home front as much as you'd like. but that wasn't even the complete story. i chose to give a 'all my fault' answer to avoid going back and forth on this.
i honestly do not want to relive the past. i admit i have said some extremely hurtful things to him. we both did to each other. life was better when we were just dating and parents weren't so involved. as soon as parents entered the picture, it wasn't the same.
i want to thank you for your candid feedback. you indeed gave me something more to think about. i will try to work on those things but a future relationship will not be in the cards.
the only man i ever planned on being married to is my h. i don't plan on marrying again. i've never been one to date around - it was one of the things he respected about me. i am in counselling and will likely be in counselling for a while. but i rather be alone than to be dating so i can say i have someone.
