if someone is not interested in you, move on to the next. that maybe the only change you really need to make.
what is so attractive about someone who isn't interested to you? it seems like they need to be making some changes and get with the program.
I know that this view is sometimes advocated on the board, but I don't think that the DR view of moving on with one's life (GAL/non-pursuit) is necessarily the same as moving on to the next [person]. I was wrong to have my EAs while I was married and living with W, and I also feel it would be wrong to have EAs/PAs while married, but separated, from W. Maybe I'm just a prude?
I also am not sure that simply being uninterested in the WAS is the right approach in WAS cases spawned by severe neglect (compulsive gaming). After all, you were uninterested in the spouse while you were neglecting them, and they apparently did not find that attractive since they are WA...It seems there needs to be an interest in something new and healthy (i.e., a change on your part)?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
