So long, and thanks for the fish

[flowmom]

Oh Aver. The suckitude . I'm so sorry that you are suffering. (((hugs)))

You have a tough challenge to take on dear. Your head is so much in "their business", and you know how toxic that is. I think that's where The Work can help: truly facing reality and embracing it.

I've had a lot of problems with unhealthy obsession since the separation, and the recent mini-breakup triggered it again. I think that obsession is about control, trying to make things safe for ourselves by gaining an illusion of control. Of course, obsession just ends up making us feel less safe and more out of control as we lose touch with our own reality.

I don't remember if you're taking ADs? They really helped me with thought-stopping. I still get on the obsession train, but I can often redirect it or get off it now, whereas before I felt that I absolutely couldn't. That has been such a relief.

Take care dear.