As I ready your wonderful post along with yours on the love for you wife being unconditional. You're right God's love for us is unconditional. And God gives each of us "Free Will" to make decisions, right? Do you believe God puts 1 person in our lives for us to love, trust and spend our whole life with? So, those people who's H or W have embraced their "free will" by their actions toward God's gift of marriage, should have unconditional love no matter? You may want to read the 10 commanments, again.
I do see your point of view on many of your post. And I have allow M to excape from the a simular jail. Though the understanding, forgiveness, accepting, unconditional love for my H. Does Unconditional love mean that person is the only person I can share my New Live with? Or does unconditional love mean, one can love them not matter what their actions have been, are, will be but I want to live my life with a healthy person? But I'm not going to allow or accept my H control over me living my life the way God wants me to -- full of love and caring for our C and M. I believe God puts people in your life for you for a reason and pulls them out for a reason. If we look to God and pull our needs and wants out of the equation. He will show us his plan for our life.
