I had a waffle with strawberry sauce and powdered sugar and some fruit for breakfast on Saturday morning, and then my sister and I headed out on our adventures. It was raining and my sister wanted to talk, so we just tooled around the area for awhile and then spent a lot of time driving. We went a little further north, then headed back to home (southeast Michigan).
One of the highlights of the trip was chillin' in the communal hot tub, looking through a wall of glass at all the beautiful, brightly-colored fall trees. It was great.
wow, that does sound like a beautiful and gorgeous trip! I totally need a trip like that after this week! And yeah why should the newlyweds be the only ones to be spoiled with the big bed and jacuzzi? I was very pleased to read that you took full advantage of the room (well, maybe not FULL advantage! ;))
Ok hope you have a better week, Mrs. A!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Hi Mrs A, Sorry that i bailed on you for our 7 day NC with XH. I had to make a really quick trip back to South Africa as my grandmother was extremely ill and we didnt think she would make it. Well luckily she is a tough old broad and is still with us.
So how did it go with the NC for 7 days? I see above that he called you and tried to tell you about his awful life - sorry he is not going to get any sympathy from me as he made his bed. However, I do know understand its hard for you to feel that way as well.
((( ))))
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived
This is really kind of exciting, actually. My dad turns 75 on December 4. My sister has lived in San Diego for 4 years and he's never visited her because he's terrified of upsetting his routine. So tonight I asked him if he might like to go to San Diego for his birthday and he said ok. That's great! So now I have a trip to plan.
I don't do well just being. I like to have projects, and my only project for awhile has been re-endearing myself to Mr. A. Well, now I have another project - planning my dad's 75th birthday trip!
It's so funny/funky to me that I'm getting to really value my time with my parents now that they're getting older. Sure, I look back and think that they were kind of messed up as caretakers, but I'm not going to hold it against them forever! (I've already held it against them for 35 years!)
I'll be totally geeked if my dad actually takes this trip to San Diego with me!
I love love love San Diego and I ESPECIALLY love it in the winter months, when Michigan is awful and California is beautiful! It would be really fun to go out there with my dad and hang out with my sis! Holla!
San Diego is gorgeous! I lived in the Rancho Penasquitos area for 3 years in the late 90's. The weather year-round is to die for. So nice to sit out in the evening and NOT get devoured by bugs. Hope you can go on the trip.
Glad you are also keeping yourself busy with activities that don't center around Mr. A. That is a good step towards detaching!
Hi Mrs A, thanks - my granny is okay. She is very fragile but hanging in there. She is a tough old lady, but honestly I think it is time for her to move on to higher places. My grandfather died last year and I think she really misses him.
As for NC - well we have been chatting via email re scheduling for the school holidays and also re getting some documents etc. It has all been very stoaic and business like - but with a touch of friendliness (or something like that).
On monday we are in court again to agree child care arrangments so I will have to see him again. We have not had verbal contact in quite some time so it will be interesting.
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived
Just checking in for a quick minute before I go read up on others.
NC for me isn't that hard when I know Mr. A is not making any move to talk to me. So we haven't talked or had any contact since he called me last Thursday night/Friday morning.
Watched a pretty decent episode of Star Trek tonight - Geordi's visual cortex was manipulated by Romulans and he almost killed an ally. Yikes!
Other than that, I'm just laying low. For the past couple of days I've been having rather unfulfilling interactions with some of my favorite people. What's up with that? Maybe I just need a good night's sleep!
It's been a little while, so here's the highlights reel:
End of July: Mr. A and I were divorced (final).
August-September: We were seeing each other a lot and I thought we were on the path to reconciliation. Mr. A even sort of moved back in!
First week of October: I got suspicious and asked Mr. A (by email) if he was seeing other women. If so, I told him, I don't want to see you anymore. He said, yep, I sure am. Couple days later we talked by phone and I said I wanted to talk in person. He said he'd have to check his schedule.
Second week of October (10/15): Mr. A snuck into the house to get his stuff so that he wouldn't have to see me, but he couldn't find it so he had to call and tell me he was there!
Third week of October (10/21): Mr. A called to tell me that he had lost his job and was very depressed. I was nice to him.
First week of November (11/3): Mr. A called me late one night like a million times in a row. I decided not to answer. Then he texted me something nasty, like "So I no longer exist to you, huh?"
Second week of November (11/11): Mr. A called me again a bunch of times yesterday evening around 9 p.m. I didn't answer. He then texted me "just want to talk". He texted again and I replied "Everything ok?" Yes, but he really wanted to talk to me. Then he texted again and called like crazy but I didn't answer. Finally I said "not tonight" but he still called a couple more times.
Not sure why I'm bothering to post, as I clearly know Mr. A is not treating me well. Just trying to sort things out, I guess. I had just started to get really angry with him over the past couple of weeks, but one kind word like his texts from last night still opens my heart right back up.
For me, regardless of what Mr. A does, he's easy to love. It's a lot easier to let him in than it is to shut him out. I wish we could just get it together...
