The song title thing is just too funny.

Especially: If I had shot you when I wanted to, I'd be out by now.

Flowmom, been following along, checking in.

I understand the allure of attention. I know that's what got to my X. ALL that full on ATTENTION from Her.

It sounds like things are moving fast--I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but interestingly-to me it feels really SCARY! But I'm the one with the commitment issues, right?

FB is such a strange, f**ed up world, IMHO. Links upon links; perhaps perfectly innocent posts that an outsider (Flowmom) reading can easily misinterpret. And then spend emotional energy worrying and wondering.

Of course I'm jealous that you have had not one, but two men come a'courting Good for you!

I just want it all to be good and OK and joyful for you. Not time spent on FB and then worrying.

I guess the thing I hope to have learned in this process is to ask. Ask about what you are nervous about. Say what you are thinking and feeling.

Not that I can do it! But that's what I'm in therapy for.

You have fun, Flowmom. Take good care of your heart.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process