You're right. And everywhere you look - from TV to movies to celebs - it isall portrayed that divorce is ok and promotes a "divorce fantasy." If only more shows would show the reality of the effect on children I believe people wouldn't be so quick to divorce or jump ship. Children are somewhat resilient but don't ever think they are better without both parents together in a loving home. Why doesn't this fact get more attention in the medias?
I don't get it. I try to detach. I don't respond to her texts right away. When I do respond I give short, sometimes one word, replies. Then she gets upset that I'm not communicating with her. But God forbid I text her something first, 'cause then I'm 'pressuring' or 'smothering' her, even when there is no R reference in the text - just something innocuous.
Then she gets upset that I'm not communicating with her.
Then ask, "What else do you need from me?"
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
W out of town for the weekend visiting w/ her family. She has D3. I was never a Halloween fan, but heartbreaking that I won't b with them to see D3 trick-or-treating. This is the first holiday not together as a family. Even for July 4th (after W had left) we still spent the day as a family. Been communicating w/ W since last night (text and phone call.) Encouraging communication, but still wish I was with them. D3 had asked me to be with her for Halloween - in front of W she said she is dressing as a fairy and asked what I will be - knowing I won't be there I replied 'a ghost.' It was kind of a sarcastic remark for W to hear, but it slipped out.
That is WAW script about the kids. I too am sick of the glorification of divorce, it is everywhere. Wait til she reads Eat, Pray, Love and that justifies it as well.
Same here, my son asked me what I was going to be and I said: "Invisible". I told him I would be there with him, he would not be able to see me, but I would be there.
Me 39 W 37 S 5 D 2.75 Married 12 years Together 14 years Bomb Dropped 08/16/10
Talk about "by the book" WAW. Was told by sis-n-law that W doesn't communicate all the time b/c she doesn't want to give false hope - but does communicate some 'just in case' changes are real. But doesn't trust changes are real. I was told that she expects me to get mad at times, yet I haven't - very confusing for her. Sis-in-law says W is hard-headed. PATIENCE SUCKS!!!
