MWD makes it very clear a boundary without a consequence attached to it is a "hollow threat".
Why does everyone keep talking about boundaries and try to omit the consequence component...
Boundaries are comprised of two things :
a. A limit b. A consequence for someone transgressing that limit
That's it.. That's boundary... BOTH components
If you try to set boundaries up early on and leave out the consequence and wait until the transgressions get ridiculously excessive before you start to add a consequence then you are just issuing hollow threats...
Hollow threats are not constructive... According to the text.
I can understand issuing a "warning" for something minor... Policemen after all sometimes let a speeder or whatever off with a warning when a ticket could have been issued... But the warning doesn't keep getting passed off over and over.. AND its for a very minor infraction...
Hollow threats are constructive, and that's what a boundary that's missing the consequence is... according to the text...
