XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[lea74]

We have unfortunately had another incident last night. Whilst my sons were having a conversation with their dad it became evident that it was a conversation between, XH, the other woman and my sons. I asked my sons what was going on and the S10 hung up the phone. They obviously felt very uncomfortable with the situation so ended the conversation. They would then not take any further phone calls from their dad.

I texted XH and said to please give the boys a breather and call them again in the morning. (OW has previously been told not to contact the boys and that these phone calls are for their dad alone to continue their relationship.)

He then sent me a range of insulting texts and called the police who came at 9.30pm last night. He told them that he was concerned that I had hurt or abused my boys. This was obviously totally unneccessary and my sons had to called out of the bed to check they were okay. They were both very stressed and upset about it.

I have now since received quite a few texts from both XH and the other woman, which I feel are boardering on harrassment:

The content of the texts have been:

From XH:
You are a sack of sh*t. You dont deserve to be their mother.
U dont deserve the title of parent. U are an embarrassment to all those good parents. (this one came through twice)
Guess you did not realise that the boys have been speaking to us both for weeks. We will be calling in the morning.
Do you still take your meds or is it that you get a kick out of hurting your children ....

From OW:
Has it not got through to you yet that i will be married to Paul and officially be the boys stepmother. Hope you enjoyed your visit this evening. (I assume this means the police)
You would know what trash was. never met anyone who is such a low class in my life.
You absue your kids mentally and when they are older the will resent you.
Did I tell you that we are very happy and that the boys love being with us. I too will be a Mrs S van Kooten - its kind of funny.
Sweet dreams .... Hope you dont have night terrors - if so borrow S8 light that we bought him. It works well.

I am not sure how to deal with this. I keep trying to move forward however, then these happen and I feel I have to start all over again. It has unfortunately been like this for the past 18 months now and quite frankly it is enough. I am not prepared to condone their relationship or help to foster a relationship with their future step mom - this would be condoning adultery and I wont do it.

Am I being unreasonable?? Everyone tells me I have to accept her - however what needs to happen is that they accept me as the mother and the parent who stayed. I actually dont have to accept her!! I just have accept the fact that my XH is getting remarried and they will have a (wicked) stepmom.