The fact that you are doing things just so she will see isnt exactly dropping the rope.
Stop wearing the ring, if you want, but just put it away somewhere.
Trust me, she will notice it missing from your finger, you don't need to leave it laying around.
If shes not gone in 2 weeks move back in, and HELP her get a place of her own.
Don't get angry or anything.
"W, I've decided you've had enough time to find a place of your own, and I'm sick of sleeping in a bed that isn't mine. I'm coming back to my house, and we need to figure out how to get you out on your own ASAP. How can I help?"
The ring and the latter are just drama. You don't want to be a drama queen.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
the biggest mistake a man can make in these situations is to act out in needy, depressive emotions. it is a turn-off and further repels their wife.
passive-aggressive behavior can be fatal. Dear john letters, giving them back their rings, arguing over money and who owns the house and kids can make an already attractive fantasy open arms to go running into.
i said this earlier, when you think you are in a relationship with someone who does not consider themselves in a relationship with you, you do not have to say a word to validate them.
strong, confident, desired men do not give a 100 reasons why someone should stay with them. if someone doesn't want to be with them they move on. move on to the next, move on to understanding their self, move on to a better more happy time. They do not wave their broken heart around like a banner and acting like an emotional child because they cannot have what they want.
okay guys thanks for the injection I need it. I didnt do the dear john letter.. I didnt leave a letter at all. I did leave the ring.. oh well too late for that one. now I just do my thing and move on.
I have to get the son tomorrow from school and then we have a joint marriage therapy session. probably the last one.
I will move back in in 2 weeks and if she is still there tell her to get moving. like yesterday or two weeks ago.
Makingprogress,
last night wife started with more CB and it is effecting our son now. She told me she wants a divorce yet again. SO I am starting yesterday Robx and Gucci plan of moving on and moving her out.. this is a temp step to get away from her and detach. I plan to move back. I need to get the hell away from her.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
