...a chance to air them in anger and frustration means they'll hang in the air between you for months. Also, believe me, you can argue away, promise and plead away till you're blue in the face, you'll only make the other person more determined, even if you're talking sense.Tthe leaving spouse is not able to listen to what you say or hear it as you'd like. i did all the wrong things 100s of times before reading the DB book or joining the forum. Now I realize I did a lot of damage by talking about the R morning, noon and night. So do what the book says and resist the temptation to talk about your R. NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
