I can say ruefully that talking about the R or the M when your other half is on his/her way out the door is very counter-productive. You feel you have to talk about it, it's the one thing on your mind, but if you talk to your spouse, you'll hear a lot of things that hurt horribly -and the more "cornered" he/she feels, the more they'll hurt. many of those things aren't strictly true, or just true at that minute, in anger. But giving the spouse a
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
