Sandi - I am working towards that now. Yes I think I am appearing needy and interrogative. Can't help it. But honestly how do I react when someone is busy every time they are around u smsing on the phone. They get ballistic when u sit next to them. (Something that never happened b4) next thing they tell u 'u r making me feel like I am in a prison'. Whatever happened to transparency and honesty. About leaving ...I have asked him countless times to do so, he doesn't want. I think he thinks it a number of times but he still wants to be 'married'. Maybe he is doing it for our son or scared of starting his own life by himself, since the OW is in a foreign Ctry and highly unlikely to come here. Or maybe he is looking 4 another woman who is more local. Don't know maybe it is my imagination doing overdrive. This sucks! But I am working on it. Now when an argument starts before it ensues into something bigger, I walk away or keep quite. Far better than before. The next step will be to identify those items that cause conflict and work on avoiding them. But I need to know if for real this affair is ongoing. At the moment I do not know how I can do that. IDNU - thanks I am working towards letting him go, slowly but surely. It's not easy but with the resources I am getting here it gets easier. So what happened with ur wife?
