OLW, listen to the experts here. They are right. I have to ask this, why are you still paying to live somewhere else and paying for everything at the home? Take it for what its worth, it will get you no where. Move back into the home. Sleep on the couch, the basement anywhere. If she doesn't like it, tell her she can move.
Get your own bank account ASAP, no ifs ands or buts on this. If you want to be a good father, your needed at home. You cover your living expenses and your childrens. Do not give her any extra money. As a stay at home mom, she is entitled to support, but if you pay the mortgage and the utilities then you are more then covered. Make her buy the groceries etc. She has the best of both worlds. You pay for everything, she has access to your cash and her cash. You are allowing her to use you and someone else reaps the rewards.
I paid for my wife for a long time when she moved out. I am way behind the curve on a lot of this, but on the money part i am on track. Cut her off. Move home. If she doesnt like it then she can move out and put you before a judge. If you continue to live outside the home, you will loose so much more in a divorce. She already knows that you have to be separated for a year, so she has looked into it.
I too wanted to save my marriage, i have done everything kyou could imagine. I just realized how much of a smuck i have made myself in my wifes eyes. I took back control of me, and since tuesday I have slept better, been more productive and almost happy. Listen to the advise others give you on here.
So i will end with, GET YOUR OWN BANK ACCOUNT, MOVE HOME, STOP PAYING FOR EVERYTHING.
