Ok, just a heads up to some of the newbies. Trust me, I've learned these things the hard way:

1. You're not as smart as you think! If you think you can get tagged by your spouse and not have it set your DBing back, trust me, you're wrong.

2. No R talks means no R talks. Deflect, defuse, defer. They do you nooooooo good.

3. Don't initiate anything physical, even if your spouse accepts it. It's pursuing. Make them initiate.

4. The Pinhead Test... If your spouse won't give you a great, I mean great kiss, then they're holding back or not "feeling it." Don't be fooled.