This approach to boundaries is not bad. For me the "consequence" approach conveys a parental attitude, since that is what is given to one's children for their behavior. If I'm dealing with a child, then that is appropriate.
I am training for a marathon, one of the consequences is that I have lost weight and reduced body fat.
the consquence is just the result of behavior.
My daughter studied hard for her science test and as a consequence she made a 93.
Stop trying to pigeonhole boundaries or consequences as negative things. They are healthy and loving for all parties.
When I type out a quote for how to express a boundary it is all about behavior and they are normally very effective when presented well. It let's the WAS know what the deal is and the LBS can regain some control over themselves instead of being in victim mode.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
