The problem is that sometimes (especially in relationships) a criticism of the person gets mixed in with addressing the behavior.
You are the only one is this convo who thinks this. We talk consistently about boundaries being about behavior - not personal or attacking. The more destructive and harmful the behavior the more direct the boundary (you continue that behavior here is the consequence). So therefore in your logic it's not criticism. I don't see any of us advocating your definition of criticism - blaming or shaming.
I make my living with my choice of words (i'm better verbal than written) so am careful that I am clear and descriptive. Your definitions of words that have more clear and recognizable meanings are confusing to me (conscious,unconscious, validating, criticism, boundaries etc). It makes your message hard to understand and absorb.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
