Is there any hope for us? 2

[bustorama]

It does feel good when Internet strangers accept you, doesnt it, SoA?

And even more so when loved ones/friends accept you with compassion, doesn't it SoA? I remember my W's aunts, brothers, and even father rejecting what I had done, but accepting me and realizing that my bad acts did not define me. They don't define you either, SoA. Rather, how you learn from and cleanse yourself from them does.

And perhaps you feel even better when you get signs from Above of acceptance and forgiveness.

What feels BEST is when you accept yourself...


Re: the wanting your spouse to come home, for me, not only the strength, but also the nature of that changes (yearning, craving, preference, would be nice if, bah I don't want him/her back the way he/she is). It's also not linear (sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker or almost gone). I can tell you that the more you work on and focus on yourself, the less you will feel it as an urgent, painful need. And it also will be a healthier process for you whether he does or doesn't come home.