Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[HopelessInLove]

I thought I had a small break through today with W. I was passing her in the hallway while getting dressed and she stopped and talked about her workout with me. She rearly has spoken to me about that. I talked with her for a couple minutes and then she continued through to the bathroom to get ready for work.

Later in the morning she was getting D ready for her Halloween parade for school when she need take care of a hair-peice. She walked fout of the bathroom and stopped right next to me and said something to the effect of breaking it off. I thought she was talking to me and I commented that she needed to cut it off because there was a wire in it. She made a smart remark and said she did not address me. 2 nights ago I was getting my hair cut and she came in, started talking to me, and then had her attention pulled elsewhere to talk to someone. When done with that converstion she continued talking to me, but I was not looking at her so could not tell she was starting our converstion back up. when she was done and waiting she asked me to respond. I asked her to address me because I did not know she was talking to me again. I later apologized and she accepted.

Am I reading into things again? Is it typical to back slide?

I have been doing well for the most part at detaching.

It was difficult last night though. I was cleaning up things in my basement and found a shoe box of letters we wrote back in college. That riped me appart.

Anyway will continue to detach and work on myself. I am generally starting to feel better about myself and the things going on around me that I can control. W is not one of them and I will not try. This has been a problem for her, and she is tired of giving into me with control. I tell her that I don't try and control her. She has said I have expectations! Well maybe I need to expect her to D me. Just thinking.