Also, FWIW, I don't use "conscious" and "unconscious" in any deeply spiritual sense. When I am "unconscious" simply means that I am in the grip of my feelings and am reactive rather than responsive. I am unable to hear what the other person is communicating. When I am "conscious," I am aware of my feelings but not being driven by them. So I am able to hear them.
I think the word concious is going to throw off a lot of people. It is technically speaking a legitimate term to use, but most people see the term unconcious as being asleep.
Impulse control is probably a better characterization of what you are talking about here...
