Your story is inspirational. Thank you for sharing it. I am sorry that you are having some similar problems now, but as you said, it makes a huge difference when a) you know the cause and b)they are willing to work on it.
It is scary to me that people keep telling me that this isn't going to work out and that I should probably leave. First of all, let me make it clear how thankful I am for your posts. They make me feel validated and I know they were written with care for me in mind. I guess I came to this site looking for a solution, but the one that people keep giving me is not one that I want to hear. Unfortunately, the more I read other peoples' stories, especially those of you that escaped a LD marriage, only to find love with a similar HD spouse, the more I wonder just how much I am cheating myself. And as much as I would hurt if this marriage dissolved, and as much as people around me would be shocked and probably some a little hurt, too, I know that waiting could potentially hurt more people.
Is there anything wrong with my being embarassed to leave a marriage at seven months? I mean, I know this sounds bad, but won't people see me as a quitter? Won't I be the bad guy? That doesn't seem fair, but at the same time, I am not about to go around telling everyone my story. Won't people think that I am flighty and indecisive. I mean, married seven months? Just one year ago, I was planning a wedding and gushing to everyone about how WONDERFUL my FH was. Aren't people going to think that I am nutso?
I think that I am going to at least give counseling a try. I am not the type of person that can walk away from even a bad situation until I have exhausted all means of making it good. I think if I walked away now, I would regret it for years to come, always feeling like I failed myself, my husband, and our marriage.
In the meantime, please keep your thoughts, advice, and similar experiences coming. It truly helps to know what others have been through/are going through, and that people care. Bless those of you that are trying to help me through this rough time. I appreciate it more than you can know.
