why would we ever want to say anything remotely critical and leave when somebody is throwing a tantrum and hurtling insults?
Because doing so decreases the likelihood of being able to effectively set the boundary.
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Shouldn't we reserve our criticism for folks who are behaving well and who have healthy boundaries?
Why would you want to criticize at all? Criticism is ineffective in setting boundaries, since it tends to shut the other person down. And it is engaging in the very behavior we wish to have the other stop doing.
