Dagny - Thanks for the input. Will look for those books this weekend. Yeah I am learning not to believe what he says but it somehow pierces my heart so much. And it hurts. And he somehow could care less.
Robx. Thanks, in response: 'Is this a pretty good summary' Pretty much so.
'The next time he's texting, ask for his phone.' I have pretty much said the same thing to him, but he tells me to still trust him. I told him that his word has proven to be untrustworthy. And he says by me checking on him he feels like I would be controlling him. I also told him that I will not stay in a marriage where someone is having an EA. (The OW is in a foreign country) But the two seem to have a pretty strong Emotional bond. She is married, with two kids and we are same age. They have never met though but the times he spends on his laptop and on his cell worries me (coupled with the way he hides all his stuff). I still want to work on my marriage though, if it can be salvaged, but right now all my efforts are being ridiculed and he says I am pretending. He says I should learn how to treat him well....I thought I did though of course there is always room for improvement. That is why I was thinking of moving out myself.
