I am interested to see if your approach of being aloof works in either a postive or negative way. I suspect that most HD spouses that visit this board have tried everything, including the "being distant" approach. I know that in my case, the relationship deteriorates over time and at the end of a few months we are not even speaking, lines get drawn and before long a few more months of a miserable existence go by. At the end of 6 months or so, the situation becomes intolerable and we are even further away from being able to rekindle any kind of affection or passion in our relationship. I suspect, however, that this approach may be more effective when the wife is HD and the husband is LD.
I wonder if anybody has had either positive or negative experiences with this approach and whether it is more effective when trying to affect changes in LD Husbands compared to LD Wives? I would expect that this approach on its own would only draw attention to the situation rather than be any kind of "remedy" in its own right. If this approach is successful in drawing attention to the situation, I wonder if there were any additional approaches that resulted in a longer term solution to our dilema.
Anyway, best of luck MSM - let us know how this turns out!
