Changing to get a spouse back doesn't work. It's transparent. Why are you changing now? Is it really to improve yourself or is it to possibly get your spouse back?
It doesn't work.
Read every thread on this forum, how many spouses: men or women, have tried to change everything they could and met up with similar results, the WAS's don't respond to change by a LBS when the WAS has decided they want out of the relationship.
Why should they respond to change now?
It's too late.
It's insulting to the WAS.
If a LBS can change, why didn't they change when they had the chance, when the relationship was still intact?
In fact, if anything, changing in hopes of getting your spouse to come back again insults the WAS, it makes them angrier, resulting in a stronger attitude to move on further away.
This is EXACTLY correct and EXACTLY what happened in my situation. I'm still not sure that I understand why this is though. We are making the changes that they asked us to make because we love them and want them to be happy. Why is that a bad thing?
