I understand not wanting to see her and that is what I am doing myself. I know it is not the right approach to try to get her to come back but I don't want her to come back anymore. Do you want yours to come back?
At this point I want to explore other options. Am I leaving the door open a bit for the future? Yes. Am I going to push forward with the legal separation or divorce? Yes.
I would say that completely walling off from my W last winter and spring is what did attract her back to me, so I don't think you're correct in saying it's not the right approach to get her to come back.
