Also, FWIW, I don't use "conscious" and "unconscious" in any deeply spiritual sense. When I am "unconscious" simply means that I am in the grip of my feelings and am reactive rather than responsive. I am unable to hear what the other person is communicating. When I am "conscious," I am aware of my feelings but not being driven by them. So I am able to hear them.
So when someone "is in the grip of their feelings, and reactive" you excuse any of their boorish behavior?
Sorry, that dog won't hunt with me. I think it's not good for the recipient, and it also does no favors for the boor.
