The divorce care is a series of videos and then discussions, it was funny because they prefaced the ratio with a bunch of experts saying you are going to like this! Now, I'm not sure if it was for dating or for marriage, as the discussion was on the success rate of 2/3/4 marriages if the healing isn't done first.
I sure do hope I'm not going to put my life on hold for too long waiting for H, I see it as parallel paths, getting my life together and if he ever decides to reconile, then make that decision then. I waited 14 months last time, I'm not going to wait that long again. But, I think the recovery process (not just DBing) is going to take some time, and maybe that is where the 4:1 comes in to play, the longer the M, the longer it takes to heal. I agree, I would be 5 1/2 years to date? I don't know if I want to wait that long, but I'm also too early in the process to do anything but fantasize about some of the cute soccer coaches.
Dagny
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW
