Take this with a grain of salt. Go file for D. Get out of your marriage, and then date to your heart's content. If Professor Plum is willing to wait for you, all the better. But you're having an affair... All the justifications you're using are the same as the WAS we keep reading about.
Question for the board.. and I know there will be so many different viewpoints... What if D is filed already... is it ok to date or not? I know some Ds take YEARS to complete.
I think it's fine to date once you've filed. My W wouldn't date me at all until my divorce was completed, but I had no problems with it either way.
