Good morning everyone. Thanks for all the input, there's a ton of it. Almost too much to take in, but a lot of it isn't new stuff, just rephrased stuff.
Lance, no one here has advised me to leave my house. The situation in my home had become more than I could handle, and I had decided that it was easier if I just left. Easier... Easier than pushing her out. Easier than filing for divorce and accepting that she just couldn't accept the reality that she didn't love me anymore. Easier...
I have a lot to think about today. What is best for me, for my daughters. Not what will snap my wife out of her "fog," or be the most painless way of coping with our situation.
Robx, you're right about the changes being counterproductive. They're fine if they're for you, but even if they are, the WAS WILL resent them and you. My wife has said so.
I know mindreading is a no no, but what I see in my wife now is guilt about hurting me, hurting my daughters, fear of being on her own, financial fears, fear of loneliness.
Just like me, she has scrambled from solution to solution, trying to avoid the reality that she's no longer in love with me. From taking a week away, to MC, to pimping herself with me, and now to separation. Anything to avoid divorcing. I don't blame her at all, though I wish she was more honest with herself and with me.
I think my decision at the end of the day won't be whether I want to move into my own apartment, but whether I want her to move out, and whether I should file.
