One of the things dancing does, is create an opportunity for my W and I to reconnect. In the past I probably would have kept a distance from her. On the way to the dance venue last night my W mentioned that she is intimidated by the weeknight dance venue. She is uncomfortable not having a network yet. Could she be handling it better? Of course.
I think a balance between love and boundaries is needed. What is the best response I could have had when she walked off the floor? I'm open to suggestions. I chose to take off my shoes, and end the evening, since we had been there for some time.
I think the plan for next time will be to continue to give her most of my dances, keep the evening short, and encourage her to break the ice and ask guys to dance. I also expect her to not yet be comfortable there, so not to take poor behavior personally. One can call it "walking on eggshells" but I think I need to give her latitude and be supportive. If I give her grief over her behavior, she may not take it well and stop going.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
