You're right on the money. I've really only been db'ing for two months; with the last month almost the opposite of what I really should have been doing.
I made the mistake of seeing what I wanted to see when I told her I was done a month ago; then showed her that I wasn't done at all.
Moving out will bring a lot of clarity to our situation, at least for me. I don't know what it will bring to my W, and though I hope it helps her to figure out what she wants, I don't expect that. She needs to figure our her own path, like I am with mine.
I'm comfortable with moving out now. Not because I think it will jar my wife, not that I want to date a bunch of available women. But because I'm not going to hang around someone who can't, doesn't or won't be honest with herself about what she wants.
When I was going through chemo, my motto when dealing with BS and CB was "life's too short." Somehow I forgot that when I became healthy. Time to revisit that motto.
If you are doing it because YOU are choosing to move out, not because she is telling you to move out then I am all for it. I just don't want you doing this because she is forcing you out.
I'm glad you remembered your personal struggle, your battle with cancer, the chemo therapy, how hard it was on you and your body, life is too short, it is a precious thing to waste, people who realize that communicate high value, I'm glad you realized this, it's a hard lesson for everyone to learn.
