How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[Dagny-2]

Hi NCU!

I've been catching up on everything and would it be okay if I fly over and crack your H over the head? I just hate the things they do to purposely undermine our self confidence. I really think they know they are doing it, maybe it isn't a completely intentional thing, but they know.

I started going to a divorce care group and the topic last night was dating again. The experts advised that you should wait 1 year for every 4 years you were married! Yikes. Though at this point I'm similar to you, I'm not going to take my wedding ring off until the divorce is final, want to show the kids that I mean what I say, and who would date a married woman with kids? No one I would want in the long run. Though I figure 5 years will give me plenty of time to get my body back in shape and hide some of those awful stretch marks!

The overwhelming theme, though, of the dating topic, was doing the healing of yourself before venturing out in the relationship world -- being comfortable in your own skin, not needing someone to feel whole, being happy alone, all the stuff that I think (I hope) doing the GAL stuff will get us to that stage. And I think when we hit the stage, not wanting H back, not needing him, being happy, that is when they are going to show up at the door with their tails between their legs. Though I feel that will happen more in your sitch, than mine, nothing is impossible. Though flirting I think is good. That can be fun, just don't go to far, because I think you would regret it eventually.

And my FB account is Dagny Galt, I just started it for keeping up with some DB friends, nice to see pics with some of these names!

Dagny