You're right on the money. I've really only been db'ing for two months; with the last month almost the opposite of what I really should have been doing.
I made the mistake of seeing what I wanted to see when I told her I was done a month ago; then showed her that I wasn't done at all.
Moving out will bring a lot of clarity to our situation, at least for me. I don't know what it will bring to my W, and though I hope it helps her to figure out what she wants, I don't expect that. She needs to figure our her own path, like I am with mine.
I'm comfortable with moving out now. Not because I think it will jar my wife, not that I want to date a bunch of available women. But because I'm not going to hang around someone who can't, doesn't or won't be honest with herself about what she wants.
When I was going through chemo, my motto when dealing with BS and CB was "life's too short." Somehow I forgot that when I became healthy. Time to revisit that motto.
