I can't believe this unconcious argument stuff myself... I just can't buy it at all... Sorry Arnie...
I am not gonna validate anything, i am just gonna walk away from it...
I can't believe the horrible treatment some spouses on this forum get from their wayward mates - spat on, cat sh!t thrown at them, beer poured over thier head, robbed of money, children terrorized, lies, abuse, blame, and betrayal and you are worried about correctly validating them?
I think we are turning the escapists as the victims here and this I think is unfair to the people who are at home tryign to keep the ship afloat... Those are the people I think deserve validation... Not those trashing five, ten, even twenty years of marriage for a quick fix...
