Anyone who is criticizing or blaming is unconscious. If they were conscious, they would express what is going on without name-calling or blame.
Originally Posted By: Frank V
If the person is "unconscious" enough to hurl abuse at their spouse what on earth makes you think that anything that is said will make a dent...?
When it happens and I approach it in the way described in the previous post, it inevitably has a remarkable effect. The one hurling abuse is in pain, and validating them helps bring them into consciousness.
