So, there are growing signs of passive-aggressiveness coming from stbxh. There hasn't been much overt conflict since the separation, but it may be coming out now that we are starting to deal with the financial separation stuff.
For example, stbxh told me he wanted to take the kids to mexico in Dec. So I emailed him telling him that D's passport is expired.
Originally Posted By: STBXH
Thanks, but until I/we get a financial settlement there is no way that I can travel, and maybe not even then. I'm way too far in debt right now
Knowing my stbxh, this has a heavy tinge of "poor me". Which p1sses me off!! Part of our financial problems came from our sense of entitlement to spend money that we didn't have -- and he had/has a worse case of it than I do. I'm supposed to feel sorry for him that he can't have a fun-in-the-sun vacation?? Also, it worries me that apparently believes that his current level of support will be reduced...it's not a huge amount . We have to get all this sorted out.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.