Bustorama-Thread 1

[bustorama]

She was playing around on her phone facebooking/texting with a girl friend. She told me what her friend had texted her and what she had responded -- involved husbands making messes when they cooked and she kidded back how it also used to drive her crazy when I did that. Time passed, phone did the beep of her being texted again. She looked at it and started texting back. I (smiling) asked what her friend responded. She got all defensive and launched into how I was being nosy and in her business, how I wouldn't leave her alone, why couldn't I let her text with her friends in peace. Things escalated stupidly from there.

The whole phone texting thing is an issue between us because I used to give her a hard time about texting while in the car because I saw it as disrespectful when someone in the car was talking to you. I since have realized that if she wants to text, it is controlling of me to criticize her for texting. She doesn't have to be there to entertain me and be on call to converse with me. But, anyway, I guess she felt tension about me asking about the texting at all because it reminded her of the past and because I was "in her business."

We just got back from parent/teacher conferences. My D9 is doing well and our D5 is doing well too. We took D to celebrate with a visit to her old preschool, then a stop for candy, then dropped her off at dance class. Stopped and had a roll and salad at sushi place on way to dance class. W seems like in tired, down on self, low self-esteem mode. Overall positive time, though. No big tension/fights, and I gave her words of affirmation and validation.