My youngest is finally old enough to start skiing. I live in the north, and I'd like my kids to enjoy some of the winter activities. W has expressed the same desire. I want to sign up my kids for a ski package at one of the local ski facilities. I was hoping to do it on one of my weeknights that I have the kids, and we could make it a fun weekly activity. After school we'd head down to the ski mountain, let them take lessons, I could ski, we'd have dinner, etc.
Here is the problem. All the ski places around here only do lessons for young kids on the weekend. With our alternating weekend custody schedule, that means if I sign up the kids for skiing, W will have to be involved every other weekend. W already said she's up for helping, and pitching in for the cost of it, as long as it's at the ski place her friends have their kids in lessons at. She said I'd be welcome to come ski there and hang with the kids on her weekends, so I'd have to offer the same for her. It's not a big deal, but hardly the minimal contact I want.
For normal DBing, this would be great. A chance for us to have fun, and bond, and theoretically improve our relationship. Unfortunately, my W has shown me over and over that these sorts of things mean nothing to her in terms of how she feels about me, and giving her this will just reinforce that view. Another chance for her to cake eat is all it'll be.
So I'm stuck. If I want to have fun skiing with my kids, I have to do it with W. I suppose I could just tell her when and where to bring the kids on her weekends, and not go and ski myself, and request she do the same on my weekends. Of course even on my weekends the kids will be hanging with HER friends' kids, and I'll have to interact with them, even if W isn't there. Ugh.
I don't want to sound petty, but I just don't want her all intertwined in my life.
