Yes, I do plan to continue my current course. I am getting very good results and have come a very long way since this whole mess started. I don't feel it is a good time to scrap what is working so well in favor of a new approach. I only have a few minutes before I need to get back to work, so I will just post my plan for tonight.
Tonight my H is coming over to carve pumpkins with our D3 & me. I plan to act relaxed and happy, maybe even just a little flirting. That should not be hard right now since I'm in a good mood today. I want to sit back and enjoy being a family for the evening. Most importantly I will listen, listen, and listen. H seems like he has a lot to say if I give him the chance.
I believe I will hold off on the therapist request until H indicates in some way that he is interested in working on the R. He is just coming back from some pull back. My biggest goal tonight is to make our home someplace my H wants to be at more often and to create a safe place for him to open up to me.
As far as my suspicions about an affair, a confrontation is on the back burner for now. I see no advantage to confronting him at this time. If he tells me, I am ready to hear it, but I would prefer to get my ducks in a row or hear from him that he wants to work together on our R before bringing it up myself. I still have some ‘worst case’ preparations to make. Though I think a blow up is unlikely, I want to make sure I have finished sorting out my legal options if H files papers, starts playing games with money, or decides to fight me on child custody. I think that this is unlikely, but I believe I should protect myself and my daughter while H is getting himself sorted out.
