Ya, it's funny. A lot of us want our Xs to invite us to something. Then when it happens we struggle with it.
I agree. Our daughter recently married her high school sweetheart. About five weeks before the wedding my ex-w sent me an email (after receiving my check for the agreed upon amount) that was very happy oriented and suggested we all get together for dinner and go over the ceremony, etc.. Although I have always wanted her to reach out, at this time I responded in a somewhat distant tone. She suggested again. I guess my feeling was that why should we pose as a happy loving family when she is living with one of the people who helped her destroy anything that a family should resemble. However, for my daughter's sake I responded with a few dates that might work. I guess by this time my ex was annoyed enough to agree with my original suggestion that we could discuss at the rehearsal. Ultimately it was a wonderful and beautiful event, but it would have been better had we been a couple, or at the very least had the OM and some of his friends/family not been there.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
