People lose respect and attraction for you when they can treat you poorly and violate your principles, values, beliefs and morals and you do nothing. It's not noble, honorable, strong, healthy or wise.
When you step back (detach) and look at your sitch like you are looking in a fishbowl it helps you see your role in the current environment. When all the feedback tells you that you appear a certain way and more importantly how you appear to your WAS then the wise men takes the feedback and discerns the validity of it with a open mind. Having empathy and compassion means you can put yourself in the shoes of your spouse and see yourself. I want my wife to see me as attractive, wise, in control and taking care of business. I do have control over that because I have learned what women want and how to give it to them.
A women can't feel safe with a man who will let a woman treat him badly and not do anything. She will lose respect and this leads to a lose of love. It's amazing what happens when you set boundaries and call people out on CB. Just try it and follow their actions.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
