...she has nothing left, she's grasping at whatever else she can to hold against you, and it's not working anymore. It's just a hurtful accusation on her part that she can't back up, she just notices you look very good now, healthy, in shape and it probably bothers her, she didn't expect that when the two of you separated, that you would end up looking and feeling better than when you two were together.
I dunno. I think Rob is pretty much right here, and she's trying to provoke a response or something. Anger and its cousin resentment are strange animals.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
So she has nothing left, she notices I am totally not reacting to her BS, so now use the kids as a tool again? How do I react to that without showing anger? call my L?
She finally texted me back and we agreed I would take the kids sunday and drop them at school monday morning. She asked if I wanted her to drop them off at my place or we could meet somewhere. I said we will figure it out. So she is being somewhat civil again, for now. So for the last 2 months the only contact I have had with her is in regards to the kids. In her recent statements I think she "misses" the friendship between us, but again this was her choice, if I decide to be friends with her it will be wayyyyy down the road, not going to happen now. A big part of the M is the friendship, she gives up on the M she loses that as well.
I picked the kids up at a bday party, W stood there with there stuff, hovering over me while I put the kids shoes on. I did not say much to her, no eye contact with her just smiled and kissed the kids. I took them shopping, new shoes and a couple treats, got them the new potter lego game for the xbox. W called repeatedly tonight left messages to talk to the kids. I let a few go then put D on the phone with her while S was in the bath. D finished talking, I got on the phone with W, said S is in the bath, do you want me to have him call you? she said yes I have important stuff to talk to him about. And she was serious? what had to be talked about tonight over the phone with a 5 year old? I said ok and had S call her after his bath. I did not get on the phone again, let S talk and when he was done I hit the end button.
So that is pretty much the extent of where things are. She calls 3 times to talk to the kids on a night I have them, she has them 70% of the time but needs to light up my phone one night I have theM? im not buying it...
So she starts texting me at 6 this morning. I replied and told her I would drop D off at daycare. She asked if i could drop her at her house. She said she thought the boots I got D were cute. I posted a pic of them on FB, which shows me she still checks that, I dont bother looking at hers. She then asks me how Im doing? I reply good, thanks. and leave it at that. Is she temp checking again? I am starting to believe she is missing the interaction with me, maybe not on the H and W level, but the friendship level. I have been the only solid thing in her life for the past 8 years, and when she filed and rented a house, all bets were off at that point. She is starting to see that I think.
Called to talk to the kids last night, and D was all about telling me what happened during her day. S got on the phone and said "daddy I dont want to talk to you on the phone" I asked why, he said" its nt the same is talking to you at your house". I almost lost it. TOld him we would see each other soon, and ended the call. S calls about an hour later, I didnt answer I was at the gym and he left me a message telling me he loved me. I could hear W in the background telling S that she was sorry daddy didnt answer.
Well Im going to post the latest. Not getting a lot of feedback, but its ok. I went out with some friends to watch the first game of the series, and called the W's phone to speak with the kids prior to bedtime. Left a message, and asked for the kids to calle me back. While at the pub my phone rang but I didnt answer. It was the kids and it was past their bedtime, they left a message. I listened to it and left it at that. an hour later, W texted me saying S starts basketball Nov. 15th. I said ok thanks. And then the argument started via text. This will blow your minds.
W texted me a few times today asking me if I had a concealed handgun license. I said no, I dont need it.
So I asked her tonight why she asked me that? The daycare owner where the kids go and she works was concerend because I dropped the kids off wearing my gun and badge. Are you serious? I went into my text saying you know what I do, and I should not have to explain the fact that when I work I have to wear gun, badge and I stopped. This is ridiculous.
She then goes into halloween. I told her I wanted to take the kids to a church function and would drop them off to her for the trick or treating. She texted back that she thought we would trick or treat together? She said even though you dont want to be around me, we need to get along for the kids. I responded with I have no problem being civil, but the back stabbing crap with the hidden agenda(ie gun in daycare) needs to stop. I said we can get along better once the D is done. She said we need to talk when your not angry, goodnight, I said I am not angry just sick of us attacking each other.
I hit submit too early. SHe then said I am not trying to attack you. I am worried about you. goodnight. I didnt respond. I need help here, I wanted to respond with we are getting divorced. there is nothing to worry about. I dont do drugs, I dont beat the kids, what is there to worry about? WHere is she going with this?
